Love The Key to Relationships
(Gods Divine Circuit of Love)
Without hesitation, our Lord reveals the greatest of all commandments -- and its corollary:
Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your
mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your
neighbor as yourself. All the Law and Prophets hand on these two commandments.,
Mt. 22:37-40. Have you ever wondered why Jesus would condense all of Gods
commandments into this simple concept: love God and love people? Could it be that
God has created us to find our highest joy and satisfaction relating in love to him and to
others? So it would seem.
If this is so, then we have discovered the secret of life, i.e. seeking, receiving and then
sharing with others our love relationship with God a relationship of commitment, trust,
sacrifice and respect all that divine love is in Christ: This is how we know what love is;
Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our
brothers., I Jn. 3:16. Actually, we seek, receive and share the love of God in Christ
because He takes the initiative: We love God because He first loved us., I Jn. 4:19.
But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ
died for us., Rom. 5:8.
A marvelous thing happens when we love God in return for his demonstration of love in
Christ lovingly relating to him because of Christs substitutionary death on the Cross.
Gods love creates within us commitment, trust, sacrifice and respect when we return his
love back to him when we complete the circuit of love. We then begin to change as his
love flows through us to him again and again in a powerful, never-ending relationship!
We could think of this as a kind of divine electric circuit which continually empowers us
to love God, others and ourselves. This primary loving relationship frees us to love and
accept ourselves as children of God and also frees us to lovingly relate to others. This
love relationship with God then becomes the source of just the kind of love we constantly
need to relate to others as described in I Cor. 13 and Gal. 5:22,23. All this is impossible
unless we complete the circuit and return Gods love back to him in faith evidenced by
obedience. When we stop the circuit of his love, we shut down what God intended by
loving us first.
What happens if others do not receive Gods love through us? The same thing. What we
intend by channeling his love to them is thwarted. The dynamic is lost. No circuit of
loving relationship can be developed. True, relationships on a superficial level may
develop, but nothing happens which is truly deep and abiding. Something truly amazing
occurs when two people can reciprocate in loving relationship be means of the powerful
circuitry of Gods love in Christ whether they be spouses, family, or friends. They
realize the relationship exists only because of their primary love relationship with God!
As a result, they do not desperately cling to that human relationship for their primary
satisfaction in life. They do not smother the other person attempting to find in him/her
their ultimate joy and satisfaction. This frees them to genuinely enjoy each other without
placing on him/her a burden of expectations which no one can fulfill but God.
All this has tremendous implications for our physical, mental and spiritual health. Since
we were designed by God for a loving relationship with him and others, then our well-
being hinges on our seeking, receiving and sharing his love which He freely gives to all
who come to him by faith. Much emotional pain and mental illness is caused when we
relate according to our own selfish nature rather than according to the supernatural love
God lavishly pours out on us in Christ, cf. Gal. 5:19-21. More and more, psychology is
discovering the pervasive emotional devastation which occurs when relationships are not
characterized by commitment, trust, sacrifice and respect. People are thrown into all
kinds of anxieties and depressions which make up much of what psychologists and
psychiatrists treat. What a different world this would be if we would return to the Book
of our fathers and mothers simply obeying the Greatest Commandment entering into
the kind of healthy and satisfying relationships He intended for us!
What about all the negative, nagging emotional baggage from the past? Again, the most
marvelous thing happens when we allow the powerful circuitry of Gods love in Christ to
flow through us! We can begin to love and forgive ourselves as God does, and we can
begin to love and forgive others! This is incredibly liberating! No amount of emotional
pain and devastation is too much because we are dealing with the supernatural love of
God! We say, I dont know how God could love and forgive me after what Ive done.
Or we say, I dont know how I could love and forgive him/her after what he/she did.
Such statements are actually expressions of unbelief on our part. If God could love us
while we were still sinners, and if we have sought that love and received it in Christ, then
we will apply it to ourselves -- and to others. As Annie Johnson Flint expresses it: His
love has no limit; his grace has no measure; his power has no boundary known unto men.
For out of his infinite mercy in Jesus, He giveth and giveth and giveth again. Or as John
puts it: We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love our brothers.,
I John 3:14.
Perhaps no Scripture expresses it better than I Jn. 4:7-12: Dear friends, let us love one
another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows
God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how god
showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live
through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent his Son
as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought
to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in
us and his love is made complete in us. The love relationship we have sought and
received from God must be shared if it is truly real! Its powerful circuitry cannot help
but include others in its path!
In the plan of God, He has made relationships to be the key to human happiness our
relationship to him and our relationship to others. This is because we are made in the
image of God who in himself is relationship Father, Son and Holy Spirit. In his eternal
plan, God has given us the secret of fulfilling, satisfying relationships through his greatest
commandment: Love the Lord with all your heart and with all your soul and with all
your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love
your neighbor as yourself. All the Law and Prophets hand on these two
commandments., Mt. 33:37-40.